Q: I am a very shy person and have a hard time connecting to my peers. Why am I so shy? And how can I create a close friendship?
A: A person’s level of shyness depends upon his self-image on one hand, and on how he imagines how others relate to him, on the other.
A practical way to create a good connection between friends is to study something that has to do with the soul together (such as a Chassidic discourse that discusses the service of God). When you learn these topics together, it will be easier to discuss more personal topics.